Monthly Archives: January 2014

I Don’t Look Down On Women. Period.

There’s this viral post going around social media lately titled, “I Look Down On Young Women With Husbands And Kids And I’m Not Sorry” by Amy Glass.  I posted a link to the blog on Facebook a few days ago, and pretty much haven’t stopped thinking about Ms. Glass, her thoughts, and my reaction ever since.  Why? Because I consider myself a young woman, and I have two beautiful babies as well as a hunk of a husband.1557385_10201477939017522_134210924_o

While I do understand wanting to have a shower for women backpacking across Europe, and landing big job promotions because they are pretty spectacular feats, I also want to clarify something.  When you go backpacking across Europe you usually don’t have a whole lot of room to carry presents that everyone thinks you’ll need to survive.  “Backpacking” implies you’re carrying your things in a backpack.  No one takes six rolling suitcases when they backpack.  Now, I had two SMALL baby showers before Xander was born, and had a car load of baby stuff afterwards.  We ended up shipping a lot of it to California (I was finally moving in with my husband full-time because get this-we got pregnant my senior year of college in a different state because I had a full scholarship and in this day and age that isn’t something you give up!) As far as having a shower for someone who gets a promotion at work, I’m pretty sure most people have those too, but instead of a “shower” we call it a party and everyone meets up after work for dinner and drinks out.  Sometimes you even wait until the weekend so you don’t have to wake up for work the next morning!

1502357_10201441350262826_165917707_oNow, she goes on to voice her opinion on how stay at home moms “do nothing.”  Let me give a little insight into my day.  I’m up by 8 (and that’s a day we’ve really slept in!) and making Xander breakfast, now and then I’ll make breakfast for Paul and myself too.  While he eats I usually do any dishes we have, and start cleaning our house.  I clean our house EVERY day.  Why? Because I live with THREE men–yes two of them are fun-sized, but still.  They don’t always pick up after themselves.  The second I finish cleaning one thing something else needs picking up.  Owies need kissed.  Liam needs to nurse.  It goes on.  The second I think I’ve had my fill, its nap time.  Once I get Xander to go to sleep, Liam thinks its time to have a party.  So I spend two full hours trying to keep him semi-quiet and the house semi-clean.  Eventually he wakes up his brother, I make lunch.  (Sometimes I get to even eat lunch while it’s semi-warm!) I then clean up any toys that are out while Xander finishes eating.  More cleaning.  Liam needs to nurse. More dishes.  I try to squeeze something educational in for the day, like teaching Xander to write the letters of his name.  More nursing for Liam.  More cleaning up after my Todzilla.  More nursing for Liam. And then it’s time to start on dinner.  Know what I’ve left out? Taking dogs out, trying to work from home, paying bills, laundry, stopping fights between the boys before they start, and cleaning up the things that get broken. Most nights I don’t go to bed until after midnight even though my list of things that need doing is still overflowing and usually  I still wake up often to nurse Liam.  And lately little man is waking up at 4 am and I have to get him to remember that it’s still time to sleep.  Joys.

1606518_10201477943977646_2007884329_oNo, I may not be a scientist curing cancer, I may not be backpacking my way across Europe, BUT what I do DOES matter.  I’m teaching my two BEAUTIFUL sons to share, not only their toys but their feelings. I’m teaching them how to spell their name and their ABC’s.  We spend our days learning colors, how to dust and sweep and mop.  I’m teaching them compassion, and how it’s okay to feel sad for our friends when they’re having a tough time because their mommy tells them no.  I’m teaching my children.  While Amy Glass might not think my day is the equivalent of someone who works in corporate America, I’ll keep working to make sure my sons realize that while they might not agree with someone else’s opinion they are no better than anyone else in the world.  They’re learning to be humble.  So maybe someday, if and when the Amy Glass’s of the world have little girls, they’ll be lucky enough to know the Xander’s and Liam’s of the world.  The little boys who were raised by young, stay at home moms,  moms who were given the opportunity to instill kindness and love into their children. Moms that wouldn’t trade waking up at 4 am with their babies for anything, well except maybe a nap with their babies.

Catching Up..

IMG_0162aWhat a great way to start the year–by playing catch up.  In all honesty I’m not worried about it at all, and let me tell you why.  My “New Year’s Resolution” was to take better care of myself-in all areas.  That might seem silly, but as a stay at home mom it’s REALLY easy to let “me time” and “breathe time” go out the window to make sure everyone else’s needs get met.  So, in the last 18 days I’ve read a book, tried out several new recipes, spent LOTS of time with my babies and less time with all the technology that seems to fill our home.

There is a viral blog post going around about “divorcing your smart phone,” you can read it here.  I actually read it the day it was posted, and have been trying to be more mindful of how often I’m on my phone instead of spending time with the boys.  I have to say, I’m proud of myself.  My phone is staying charged a lot later in the day than it used to, and is usually just starting to die near the end of nap time–which has been lasting three hours lately for Xander by the way!! So I just plug it in then and go about my day sans phone.  It’s GREAT.

IMG_0278aAlso, I’ve spent more time outside with the boys–and for all our family in the tundra of Oklahoma, I know you’ll roll your eyes as you read this next part, so bear with me–it’s actually been a little chilly here.  The sunshine babies have had to wear jackets off and on the last few days-and the last few times Xander has gone outside with me he’s told me, “Momma it’s cold, need jackets!”  If this is what happens to Key West when Polar Vortexes hit, send some more our way!  60 degrees is so the new 80! Haha.

Besides taking better care of myself as a momma, I’ve also kept taking care of myself physically.  Notice I didn’t say I’ve started to, because I’ve been taking pretty good care of myself for quite some time.  This last week I went on a longer run than normal with Super Dad and the boys, and didn’t take such good care of myself, and have paid for it ever since.  But, we’ve been eating a lot healthier than we did around the holidays, and we’re incorporating a “Meatless Monday” into our weekly menu now too.  IMG_0225a

Now that I’ve bored you with myself, let me update you on the boys.  Xander got a BUNCH of trains for Christmas along with a couple of different types of blocks.  He’s really enjoying all the new toys and books, but isn’t always enjoying the cleaning up of the toys.  He is talking up a storm.  When we go on walks he’s constantly pointing out things and telling me all about them.  “Look Mom, a dog! It’s running! Woo Woo (That’s his whistle sound!) Go catch him, Mom!” You get it, I’m sure.  He’s a huge help, whether it be sorting laundry, in the kitchen, or helping me with Liam related things.  He’s also Liam’s biggest fan and is constantly cheering him on, or cheering him up–whichever of the two is appropriate at the time.  IMG_0230

Lately with Liam there has been about an equal amount of cheering on and cheering up.  He’ll be 8 months old next week, and is crawling on all fours and sitting up on his own as well as pulling himself up to standing! With all these milestones comes lots of breakdowns, but he’s really not near as bad as Xander was–although I seem to be the only thing that can calm him at some point.  We’ve been trying different purees for the last two months and haven’t had much success at all, but in the last couple of days we’ve given him pieces of cucumbers and those seem to be a hit.  Baby-led weaning here we come! He’s also quite a big talker, and is my little entertainer.  He will be nursing, and all the sudden stop and start doing his “Dadada” blabbering followed by blowing bubbles.  Then, he laughs.  He did this last night as we were laying in bed going to sleep and I woke up Paul when I started laughing at Liam laughing..  He always brings a smile to my face, which is the absolute best part of being these crazy boys’ momma.